You have probably waited long enough for a man – respecting the fact that he is committed and cannot be with you. But you cannot keep waiting forever, or worst, be someone’s side-chick. You can feel there is a connection with this man, yet you cannot deny he is with someone else. If there is no future with him, it will not be wise to waste time on wishful thinking. That is why it becomes critical to know if he will leave his girlfriend for you.

And that is exactly what we will help you with. The harsh, painful signs that he intends to be with this woman, no matter how (you think) he feels for you. And no matter what he says to you, he is sticking to his girlfriend.

12 Strong Signs He Will Not Leave His Girlfriend For You

The three of you hanging out together is nothing new. You find yourself stealing glances at the man who is perfect for you, but is taken. You can feel similar vibes of intense attraction from him as well, but can do nothing more than smiling because he has a girlfriend. But you truly feel you and him are meant to be.

Except, you have been waiting for him to breakoff with her, but he simply isn’t taking any initiative. That is why, looking at the signs he will not leave his girlfriend for you will give you a clearer understanding of your complex situation. And you will be able to decide what is the best for you.

1. He has always been a man of character

What is this guy like? Is he someone who has always followed a straight path, raised in a stable home and values loyalty and commitment? Does he like to play safe and avoid risks? Then, it is likely that he will not dump his girlfriend because he finds you attractive.

Even if he has strong feelings for you, if he is a good man, he will not resort to cheating on his current girlfriend. He may have slipped on moments of temptation and lust, but he will not hurt her by two-timing her. He may confide in you and share how he feels for you, but the thought of breaking up with his girlfriend will not even occur to him.

2. You may feel he is unhappy, but he has never said it

Perhaps his girlfriend treats him badly, bosses him around or takes him for granted. You have often seen him trying to reason with her or calming her down whenever she throws a tantrum, and you think he is unhappy.

But guess what? He does all this with a smile and no matter what she does, he never fails to be there for her.

Why would he not leave his girlfriend if he is unhappy? Because you think he is. He might just be going through a rough patch with her, or she might be upset over something. All couples go through the highs and lows, and that does not mean they will give up on each other just like that.

3. He values his relationship with his girlfriend

You may have caught him staring at you a couple of times, stealing glances or just looking pleased to have you around. Sure, he may have a small crush on you and he may give you some attention if his girlfriend is not around. 

But when she is, he has eyes only for her. Her wish is his command, he is his first priority and he shows it. He is soft and kind with her and shows up for her every time.

You are at a bowling game with him, and loving every moment of it. It seems like you’ve hit it off. But his girlfriend just calls him and says she’s like to get a coffee with him- and that’s it. He simply excuses himself from the game because he values being with her much more than anything (and anyone else).

You can feel how much he appreciates spending time with her, even if that means he has to sacrifice doing things he loves.  Such a man would stay loyal to his girl come what may.

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4. She has been with him during testing times

Has he been through tough times lately? Is he going through some crisis at a professional or a financial level? We are asking you to probe these questions because there are good chances that a woman who has been with him during the hardest times of his life will likely stay through till the end.

Even if he genuinely likes you and gives you all the romantic vibes, his girlfriend’s loyalty will stand in the way of your getting together with him.

On the other hand, men who are dealing with mid-life crisis or other issues with their life tend to loosen out a bit. You may have seemed like an attractive distraction, but that is about it. He may have given in to his temptations once or twice, but the though of leaving his girlfriend for you hasn’t crossed his mind.

5. They have kids together

If they have a child (or children together) and they are trying to make it all work, it is likely he will not leave his woman for another. He may have the hots for you, and may have even cheated on her with you, but if he is a good man he will not walk away from his responsibilities. Moreover, if you find him very involved with the kids and his family, the chances of him leaving them are way too low.

He is not going to risk a stable life, the love of a child and the warmth of his home for someone or something he himself isn’t sure of.

And if he is someone who actually leaves his family for a woman, he does not own up to be a good man for yourself as well.

If the reasons of leaving someone are poor compatibility, abuse or feelings of being out of love, and the couple is anyway trying to breakup, you don’t want to be the reason for breaking up a family.

6. You always come second

This is a no-brainer, really. A guy who is keen to leave his woman for you would make you his number one priority. If you feel like you always come second to his girlfriend, you aren’t there on the top of the list. And that, my dear, is a sign he isn’t planning on leaving his girlfriend for you.

You are not the first one to know when there is good news with him. You are not the first one he’d call if something bad happens. He will let you know, eventually, but you are never the first one.

Its his girlfriend, privy to all his information- and if that is the case, it does seem like he will be leaving her anytime soon.

Sure, he gives you some attention, and maybe has even sneaked in with you, or you two have shared some cosy moments together- but he does not intend to shrug his girlfriend off for you. Even when roles are reversed, he is there for her, undeniably and unconditionally.

But when it comes to you, a lot of factors come into play and he ‘tries’ but ‘cannot’ and everything on offer is conditional.

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7. Your relationship is physical in nature

Ask yourself- how does he connect himself with you? Do you feel he is with you emotionally when he is sleeping around with you? Do you find him vulnerable with you? If your answer is no, then what you have with him is just a physical relationship. For anything beyond that, he has a list of excuses and you cannot argue with them.

He is cheating on his girlfriend with you physically, he lusts for you, and he has given in. But he hasn’t offered you anything else over and above his body. Sure, if his girlfriend comes to know he is physically cheating on her, it will be rough on them as a couple. Plus, there is a good chance she will forgive him if he comes out clean.

But even if she does not forgive him, he may not come to you because he has made no effort to get into a relationship with you. He simply does not want to connect with you on an emotional level.

You need to think – if this is what you want. Being used for your body till the time his girlfriend finds it out or he himself gets tired of living a double life and cheating on her? Or you want to walk away and explore the options open to you, that involve a true emotional connect as well?

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8. He is affectionate toward her

If he is still doing cute, little, romantic things for her, he is very much in love with his girlfriend. He keeps dropping by her place with her favorite flowers even after a fight. And never forgets to pick her favorite latte even when he is out for coffee with you.

Even if there are issues between them, he does not hesitate to be with her the moment she has to deal with a problem.

So there may be problems between them, but his face lights up at the mention of her, at the sight of her. He still sends her flowers and cake, and is willing to help her financially as well if the need arises. These are some clear signs she is on his mind a lot more than you. Consider this- a guy who cares so much for his girlfriend, even if he breaks up with her, would take a long time to get over her. Are you willing to wait that long?

9. He loves her deeply

And truly. He may have cheated on her with you, but in the heart of his heart, there is only one queen- her. You caught him in a weak moment, and maybe he even regrets being with you.

Maybe now he is more worried about how hurt will she be if she finds out, and this makes him hate himself.  There is that fierce passion in his eyes to protect his girl, come what may.

Plus, you can sense that when he is not with her, he is not himself. He understands he has messed up, but now he is trying to do what he can- damage control. And there is no going back.

A guy who is truly in love with his girlfriend will leave no stone unturned to keep her in his life- and that is exactly what he is doing now. He is not ready to let her go. But if she does find out, and decides to leave him, you know you are not the one he will be with.

10. He never said so….

Sorry, this one will break your bubble. You have just put together some bits and pieces and decided that he is going to leave his girlfriend for you. But he has never explicitly said that even once. He has never told you he sees you in his future, nor has he made any promises to you. Possibly because he does not see you there, you are the only one imagining something like that.

He is someone who lives life in the present. He is comfortable with you, and hugs you tight and maybe pecks your cheeks once in a while. He has gifted you expensive things but he hasn’t said anything about being with you. Infact, if you ask him questions about his intentions, he is likely to invalidate your feelings. So, open your eyes to the reality and stop imagining things and situations.

11. You are not the only mistress

This one comes with a blow. All your hopes of him being in love with you come crashing down when you come to know that you are not the only one thinking and wishing for the same. He has more women hoping to leave his girlfriend for him – and he seems to have no intention of.

The fact that you are not the only ‘other woman’ could be a hard pill to swallow, especially since you had started to hope for a future together. Being a mistress sucks anyway, but having other women compete for the same is another level of humiliation.

Perhaps he simply walks out of the bar with a woman more often than you know. He takes pride in having many women to himself, and cheating on his girlfriend is just a regular thing for him.

So even if he breaks up with her, how likely is he to choose you? And if he does choose how, how likely is it that he won’t do the same to you? This guy is a player, and you are so much better without him. Don’t you agree?

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12. They still look happy together

Despite what he tells you, and despite what you think – they still look happy together. Their genuine smiles and sweet gestures for each other are hard to miss. Their caring attitude and loving vibes indicate they are still very much in love and are happy. Their social media is flooded with cute moments of affection and they never fail to comment with the hearts and the doves. Could such a couple be unhappy and ready to call it quits.

Unlikely, honestly.

He may not like everything in his girlfriend, and he rants about her all the time to you, but the way he deals with her is a sure sign he loves her. He discusses his problems with you, but that does not mean he is going to be with you. He confides in you, but no one has a perfect partner, so his occasional complaints about his girlfriend should be taken like that only.

Starting to imagine a future with someone who is simply sharing some issues with his woman with you is a little far-fetched thing to do. People don’t end up leaving their partners because they are lousy, take too much time to get ready, or are generally busy.

Now that you have a good idea of all the signs he will not leave his girlfriend for you, we hope you are able to move forward in life with renewed hope and energy. If you still feel like you deserve him anyway, then it is best to give him and yourself some time away from each other. If he really has some feelings for you, time apart will make him realize them. If he doesn’t, you already know what to do – love yourself first.